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Answer: There is really nothing we can do other than pray for them. Even though they are Christians this is one of the hardest things we will have to face in this life, and only with the Lord's help can we get through these times.
I did call some Christian friends of ours who went through something very similar recently. Here is what they had to say. The husband first, said, "The biggest thing for me was to understand that God does things for a reason. He was reminded by the Lord of John 15:1 and 2b where it says, "I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser...and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit."
The husband said he remembered what Scripture had to say about God having plans for him for good and not for evil. He is realizing that God does have a plan, that He is not out there doing evil to you, but that He does have a good plan for us. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11
He was thinking how none of us like trials as we are going through them, but in the end there will be joy, and that the trials point us to God. It is so tough! We learned a ton about what it is like to go through this. "Mostly," he said, "knowing that God has not forgotten us. You look around and see others prospering and having children, and you wonder does God care for them and not for me."
Now we are starting to see the fruit, we are more compassionate toward others who are experiencing the same thing. In John 15, I don’t like being pruned, but trials are there to do that.
His wife related how that the biggest thing for her is to trust the Lord with
all your heart as Proverbs 3:5 says, Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
and lean not on your own understanding…” The thoughts that she keeps
having are, “my body is designed to do this, why can’t it function
the way it is supposed to function?” “You feel flawed constantly,
struggling with how hard it is to understand, but you need to still trust the
Lord, and not
lean on your own understanding.”
I would just like to add to what they had to say Job 2:10b “Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” And “…Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” Psalm 30:5b
We will keep your nephew and his wife in our prayers.
Gary
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