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Question: I really do not want to upset my Lord, but I tell you, that a muslim man is the FIRST male that I have EVER gotten along so well with. He is unlike any male that I have EVER dated. I have been married before and my husband was "Christian" and put me through more hell than one can imagine. After we divorced, I was on high blood pressure medicine and anti depressants.
The man in question (that is Muslim) and I have dated for two years. He has not touched me in a way that would defile me, he has not talked to me in a perverted manner, he is so respectful of me, I have met his entire family, he is NOT argumentative, he has goals in life, and he is college educated as well.
I am a practicing Christian and he was raised in a Muslim household, but he is not actually practicing it. He does practice the holidays with his family, but he practices Christmas with me and has never once missed wishing me a Happy Easter.
He has offered to come to my church. I fear him coming because there are times when even Christians can be cruel and judgmental or walk right up and start preaching to you. Muslim or not, everyone does not want to be judged at a first meeting.
I feel in my heart that if I deny him just because he is Muslim, I would be missing the opportunity to have someone in my life that is finally on the same "Wave length" with me so to speak. We have so much in common.
Answer: We have an article that I think would be good for your friend. It is on our Bible-Christian.org site. Just go to the site and look at the Bible Study Section. Scroll down until you get to the word Islam. This article was written with a person like your friend in mind.
You need to be a good testimony to your friend and let him know how wonderful Christ is. Christians will always have their problems, just like you and I. They will let you down, but Christ never will. Also, some who claim to be Christians are not really. You need to share Christ with your friend in a loving way. You can share that no Christian is perfect, just forgiven. He will know many Muslims that are bad examples. So he can understand there are those who claim the name of Christ that are not good examples of what a Christian should be.
If he is not asking you to marry, then you are just good friends. There is a lot to say about good friendships. It may turn into something more, that's why you want to make sure he receives the Lord Jesus Christ as his Savior.
"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people." Therefore "Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you." (2 Corinthians 6:14 - 17)
You need to fast and pray for his salvation, but he has a choice to make. Don't give up praying and God will bring all sorts of things into his life to bring him to Himself. If you love him, this is what you have to do. You cannot deceive yourself into thinking that it will work out if one of you is truly saved and the other isn't. Besides you want him to go to heaven with you. No matter how good a person is they cannot be good enough to go to heaven without knowing Christ as their personal Savior.
So it sounds like you have your work cut out for you. There is another article on our website I think you and him need to read and that is "I dare you to disprove the resurrection of Jesus Christ." Make sure you stay in the Word of God the Bible every day and go to a good friendly church. When you find this church ask him to think about going, but don't force him. Just let him read good Bible literature first. Then he may want to go later.
Don't be ashamed of the Lord Jesus Christ, He died for you because He loves you. Islam has nothing like this in it. You want your friend to know the truth, no matter how nice he is. Thanks for writing, write again when you can.
God bless you, and be willing to wait for God's time and God's way. He wants only the best for you!
In Christian love,
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