Question: I am a young lady and a single mother. I was into prostitution at the time I got pregnant. The father of my child denied responsibility and I have lived dependent on my parents. Thanks to the almighty God for changing my life. I received Christ while I was still pregnant. I had gone to a public health clinic. They had run some tests on me. When I went back for the results, I almost collapsed and died.
I thank the Lord for giving me a new life in Christ because at that time I thought about committing suicide. I was told that the tests were positive for HIV. I remember that when the Dr. told me the results, I glorified the name of the Lord and knew deep down in my soul that it was well. It has been 3 years, and I have seen the hand of God upon my life.
I remember that I use to wake up every single day and cry unto the Lord, asking Him to spare my baby and my life, and promising to live a holy life. I have been healed in the name of Jesus. I have lived a holy life. The problem I have now is that I have a boyfriend, and I love him very much. Should I be open and tell him that I was a prostitute? Should I tell him about my former health condition? I am so stressed and worried that he will leave. I don’t want to lose him.
Answer: I praise the Lord that He sought you until you gave your life to Him. Your sins are now forgiven through the precious blood of Jesus Christ. When God looks at you, He sees you through Jesus’ blood, which has made you clean.
God forgives sin. He does not judge some sin as worse than others. The Bible says we have all sinned (Rom. 3:23). God also says that he who is without sin should cast the first stone. (John 8:7)
Unfortunately, we as humans often look at sins differently. We tend to think that some sins are worse than others, and we judge according to what we believe the severity of that sin is. This is why not everyone needs to know all of the details of your life before you received Christ as your Savior. The important thing is that God has forgiven you and made you a new creation!! (2 Corinthians 5:17)
Even though our sins are forgiven, there are always consequences to that sin. If this boyfriend is the life mate that God has chosen for you, then he will love you no matter what your past. Since you have a daughter, he obviously knows that you are not a virgin. You do not need to tell him all of the intimate details, but he does have a right to know about your past if he is the one you will eventually marry.
He needs to be aware of possible exposure to STD’s should he marry you. It would also be much better for him to hear it from you rather than in a rumor or from someone who may know about your former life.
If this man is the one God has for you to marry, then you will want to have a strong marriage. A strong marriage has a foundation built upon Christ and around the Bible. Communication helps a marriage to be strong, and this communication must be based upon truth between a husband and wife. A marriage based upon a lie, even a lie of omission, will weaken the marriage.
Pray before you talk to your boyfriend and ask the Lord to prepare his heart and to show you how much you should reveal of your life before Christ saved you. There is risk involved. Your boyfriend may reject you. Be prepared for this. He may get upset at first. Give him time to accept what you tell him about your past. He may never accept your past, but how he deals with it is between him and God. Just know that God has a plan for your life, and that all things work together for good. (Rom. 8:28) Expect that he will need that time to be alone with God after you talk to him, because it will hurt, and he will need to process this in his own way and in his own time.
You do not need to tell everyone about your past life and health condition. However, the man you marry has every right to know that you have had multiple sex partners and that you had a positive test result for a sexually transmitted disease.
Laws vary from state to state on what is required for a marriage license, but some states require blood tests for STDs. Even if your state does not require this, your future spouse may before he will marry you.
I feel that it is important for you to know that God used Rahab (a prostitute) as part of the Messianic lineage of Christ. He used a prostitute to show Israel of His love, mercy, forgiveness, and ultimate judgment if they did not repent of their sin. (Book of Hosea)
Jesus forgave a prostitute (John 8: 3-11). He used a prostitute to prepare Him and illustrate His death and burial (Luke 7:36-50). Jesus was always ministering to prostitutes and sinners, “Jesus said to them, “Assuredly, I say to you that tax collectors and harlots enter the kingdom of God before you. 32 For John came to you in the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him; but tax collectors and harlots believed him…” (Matthew 21:31, 32)
Here are some articles you may want to read. All of these questions are on this website under questions:
Jesus Forgives Adulterers!!
Jesus Forgives Prostitutes
Here are some discussion questions on the same topic:
Letter from a former prostitute
Delivered from prostitution
Committed adultery, do I need to confess to my spouse?
I have had so many adulterous relationships
I have herpes
I cheated on my husband and my child may not be his
We’re praying for you!!
Gary and Marlene Panell
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